This Polygamy Impact on Children

What if polygamy perjadi done regardless of the opinion of children?

Polygamy now seems more and more done. Many opposition parties, but many also support polygamy because it was considered not conflict with religion. If polygamy is done regardless of the opinions of children and this negative impact on the growth of the process.

"Basically all of the children expect to have the ideal family consisted of one father and one mother. Children are always loved and wanted to get full attention. When the father did polygamy jealousy, anger, sadness disappointment would not be helped," said Seto Mulyadi , child psychologist, when contacted by telephone VIVAnews on 27 October 2009.

According to the man nicknamed this kak Seto, feelings of anger, disappointment and jealousy that can pile up and will interfere with children's emotions. Not only affects the psychological but also physical and academic achievement. Cheerful child will decrease even disappear due to the pile emotion.

"Piles of emotions can make a child turn one hundred eighty degrees from the cheerful to be angry, withdrawn, unruly, and defiant. Mind is full of kids these emotions can hinder good development of the child psychologically, physically, and could hamper his performance at the school" clearly Kak Seto.

According to Kak Seto experience, the children whose fathers are less likely to accept polygamy and perform rejection reactions. This also affects the child and father relationship became more tenuous.

"If indeed the father to polygamy, heartened try to apologize to the child. Because, polygamy and child must be able to hurt him to think negatively and apathy toward the institution of marriage later. Explaining the patience and apologize is one event to minimize the negative impact of polygamy for children, "said Kak Seto.

In addition to negative impacts, when viewed from the positive side, polygamy can teach some things. "Children will be learning more rigid in the face of a problem, he could also have a higher tolerance and if given a better understanding of the mind can be more accepting of things that are considered difficult to accept a lot of people," said Kak Seto.