How to Argue the Intelligent

Often triggered fights because you or your partner does not admit mistakes.

Differences of opinion leading to arguments would often you experience with your partner. It can not be avoided if you and your partner in a state of emotional and clashing arguments.

Arguments are normal and can be a process of maturing relationship. Then, how to fight that happened between you and your partner not just a battle of words but to be a learning?

1. Focus

When arguing, focus on problems that triggered it, do not spread to other issues that are not related. Often when we fought to bring the old problems that have been completed. That would only make an argument more heated and would be difficult to find a way out because your mind branching into other issues that actually have diselasaikan well. So, when a fight try to focus on issues that are happening and avoid the old problem of leverage.

2. Admit mistakes

Often triggered fights because you or your partner does not admit mistakes. Try to be generous by acknowledging mistakes if you did do. Do not try to protect themselves by taking a lie because it could be a boomerang for the relationship.

3. No fighting in front of children

Bertengkarlah in the room and do not let the children know. Imagine if they see or hear you and your partner shouting at each other. It would have a negative effect on psychological development. If you think the problem is very important to be discussed immediately and could trigger a fight, immediately invited the couple into the room or other room to talk about it.

4. Find solutions

Do not let an argument that happened not produce anything. You and your spouse must get new lessons and how to solve it. Remember that argument is the learning process. So it was a test whether you and your spouse can work or not. Find a way out and do not hang problem. Do not let your future and your spouse fight over the same issue. It indicates the problem is not resolved properly and thoroughly.

5. Say sorry

When fighting you can just put out the words that hurt the couple. For that, no matter who started the fight, you also have to apologize to her. It's not just you admit a mistake but rather the value it as a couple and strengthen relationships.